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Wednesday 27 November 2013

Why do I prefer the individual search?


I am asking the other agencies to forgive me in advance; they’ll probably want to kill me after reading this article )) To tell you the truth, I had doubts about letting my readers know about the shady side of dating agencies, but after giving it some thought I decided that sharing this information will be useful.

Most girls whose profiles you find on the best dating websites are dating agencies’ clients. Websites profit from this – the more women post on them, the more men register, so the website owners get more money from its users. Some sites tell you a member of what dating agency the woman is, but others don’t mention this at all. Very often website owners have no idea if women are dating agency clients or not because these agencies create dating profiles for their clients. And women themselves often hide the fact that they are members of some dating agency.

What’s so bad about a woman being in the agency? Nothing. It’s even better if a woman uses services of a good dating agency that takes responsibility for its clients, knows them personally, and checks their identity, etc., which enables the agency to guarantee that its clients aren’t scammers. Of course, this is a good thing.

However, there is one disadvantage that men are unaware of. Very few women can write insightful letters that interest a man so much that he would want to meet personally and come all the way to Russia or Ukraine. After all, a personal meeting, and, hopefully, marriage is the ultimate goal. A girl who doesn’t speak English very well simply cannot produce a letter that would attract attention of a potential husband. For the same reason many girls cannot use phone or Skype. That’s why agencies write letters for their clients.))

Someone might argue, “What’s so bad about that? It’s fine as long as the letter contains no lies.” Well, personally I wouldn’t want to go to another country to meet a person who I know only through letters written by somebody else. He or she might be a completely different person who most likely won’t interest me. It is for this reason that most meetings don’t have any continuation. But men don’t know this, and there’s no way to check if the letters they receive are written by their potential dates or by somebody else. They write to women, come to their home countries, go on dates with several of them, but never find the one who they’d like to marry.

Count how much money you spend on all these trips that lead to nothing. Isn’t it better to pay for the individual search and meet several women during the same visit – women who are found specifically for you, taking in consideration your criteria? It is your choice!

Friday 8 November 2013

Is it easy to find a Russian wife?

Is it easy to find a Russian wife?
Is it easy to find a Russian wife?
Perhaps most men who were lucky in their search for a loved one or who are just thinking of finding a Russian wife would answer, “Of course it is easy, what’s so difficult about it? There are hundreds of thousands of Russian women on various dating sites – just choose the one you like!”

But it only seems easy. We must realize that the percentage of truly good, family oriented girls isn’t that high. Some men I meet at work believe that about 90% of women are scammers. I think that even if they are exaggerating  the number a bit, they are not too far from truth. Men often complain that women post photos that were taken 10 years ago, and when they finally meet, women look 10years older and 20 pounds heavier. Who is to blame here? You should have met your potential date in Skype first, or maybe asked her to send you a recent picture with the date on it.

It is much worse when a woman looks even better that on her photo, and it seems that your mutual happiness is just a step away, but in reality this beautiful woman is already married and meeting you is just her side job. There are many possible scenarios. For example, she can play sick and ask you for the money to buy expensive medicine to help her get better faster so that she can be with you. After you give her the money, you’ll probably never see her again. Or, this woman can go on regular dates with you, and at some point she will tell you a sad story of her sick mother or grandmother who needs a sitter that the family cannot afford. You’ll probably offer her financial help after that. After all, you haven’t come all the way to Russia to spend your time alone in your hotel room. It is not going to be fun to stay here without your date. Most people speak only Russian, so even going to a restroom will be a problem because no one will understand you ))

In another scenario, a girl can ask you to pay for her foreign language courses. She needs them because she met you and fell in love with you at the first sight. However, when you are already back to your country, she will write you a letter saying that she thought things over and decided that you aren’t really her type, or maybe she changed her mind and doesn’t want to marry a foreign man after all.

“What should I do then?” you’ll probably ask. Don’t be shy. Ask her for her phone number. Meet in Skype using an online translator if she doesn’t speak English. Ask her to send you a scanned page of her passport where marriage information is located. Give her a link to this article )) However, these are simple preventive measures, and of course they don’t guarantee anything. You cannot read your date’s thoughts.

What else can be done? Well, a really good dating agency would do. In men’s opinion, 90% of all dating agencies are scammers working together with the women. Pay attention to details, use your intuition, learn from others’ mistakes, and read forum posts written by real users. Do not read reviews – we all know who writes them. Take your search for a wife seriously and minimize the risk of getting into an unpleasant situation.

It is best to use “Individual search” option if an agency offers it. But first learn what exactly you’ll get for the money you pay. Some agencies ask 10000 dollars for the individual search, and all you get are detailed questionnaires of women with several pages of their biography, which won’t tell you who they really are anyway.

In my next article read about the reason why I think the individual search is the best solution.